Childhood is about grades, playing whatever sport you like, and imagining what it's like to be an adult. As a teenager, it's all about having fun times with your friends and possible career choices. As an adult, it's about fear. This is my fear. I'm afraid of change. But I also only seek it. Relationships end, other relationships begin. New job opportunities; some people come and some people go. Life moves, I move. I don't look forward to stagnation; I can't stand it. But change, it's a pretty scary thing. Should I be excited that my life is evolving? Or should I be afraid that my comfort zone might be changing? I don't know. But I do know that life is change and change is life.
I am not afraid of failure. Failure is essential, it brings me to great places, and then success, and I know I will accept whatever life gives me, even if it's not what I want. I've been there. It's better to accept it than to just complain about it and play the victim. How many times have you planned the exact opposite? Change isn't always a good thing. It can force us out of old habits and impose better ones on us, but it can also be stressful, costly, and even destructive. What matters about change is how we anticipate and respond to it. Life in your comfort zone is easy. You simply follow a routine and you can anticipate the consequences. It is safe. Of course, the idea of being insecure is scary.
Change is fear, but fear can be changed.
Do you know why many people are afraid of commitment? Because it's a huge change. Because of the potential for injury. Change is probably my biggest fear, but I'm learning how to embrace it. I'm afraid of the idea of abandoning old habits to fit new ones. I'm afraid of choosing what I like over what I'm good at. But my fears don't stop me, because I dive right into it.
Unless you change your position, the unknown can be uncomfortable, so it's best to go with the flow of situations and circumstances. Yes, it takes more effort and energy to resist change than it does to accept it.
Try to let go of what you are worried about, because.
It continues.
It goes on, whether it breaks my heart for years, or it breaks my heart for months, or it sinks my heart for a second. It goes on, and I know it will never stop. Fear is a feeling, and feelings can be changed. Will it be difficult? Absolutely. Is it impossible? Never, ever. The key to overcoming the fear of change is to really change the way you choose to see it and react to it.